Getting married

We decided on getting married in Vietnam. It would make her family feel better about the situation for when she eventually comes to the UK. At this time I was researching heavily into the Visa process in the UK. Originally we planned to have her come to the UK in March, but after further investigation I found that I would need a lot more information and money to support our visa case. So in March 2017 I went to Vietnam again for 3 weeks. This was to get married over there, and travel more. We travel to Da nang, and Hoi An. Upon arriving to Hoi An we also attended another friends wedding. The video attached was short video made for us pre wedding.

Visiting her for the first time

So in October 2016 I went to visit Anh in her country. We visited Hanoi, Ha long bay and Sapa. I made a video of our time together. At the end of this holiday with her was also when I met her mum and brother.

Introduction

My Vietnamese Wife and I met in England while she was on a work Visa. It really was love at first sight, and I didn’t want to waste a single minute so we jumped into the relationship fast. When she went back to Vietnam it was a feeling like nothing I was expecting. We had to put our future plans on pause. We were hanging out every day, sleeping together, and then no more. But we were still together. I speak to her every day, and about absolutely everything and anything. At times it is very hard to be away from her, or even when she is busy and unable to talk. At this time she has more work to do, and she is planning our engagement party. I really do believe at this time she needs to chill out more, and the only way that I can help is by taking a step back and talking to her less. I mean I would not want her to think about working hard, planning the engagement and entertaining me 24/7 from 6,500 miles away. The distance between us is an experience.  I get even more excited when she speaks to me. I do believe at times even though we want to be with each other all the time we need to also have our own lives. If not we will feel too lonely and somewhat obsessed for each other which does not sound healthy. I do not want to drive her away, and at the best of times I can be too much as a person. This relationship has taught me to be calm and patient for the things that I want in life. And it is true that distance makes the heart grow fonder. We work as a team to plan what we will do when we see each other, and work together to eventually get her a UK Visa. That is the only obstacle in this relationship, but we are working together and learning more about each other. I have been over to Vietnam once in October to visit her and the family, and will go back there in March for 3 weeks. The problem with this is that I now only have a small amount of holiday days left. And travelling to Vietnam a lot becomes expensive. She does worry that we won’t see each other for a long time, so if for any reason we cannot move her here this year I will visit her sometime this year again.